Remember your inner child

The game of golf is one that can uncover talents, passions, and experiences one might have never anticipated. As a golf coach I am fortunate to work with and learn from the tiniest golfers. At the beginning of each class we start with a movement warm-up of sorts. In a span of just a few minutes we find ourselves pretending to be a frog, bear, or even a snake! Though the goal I have set forth is to encourage motor learning and control through play, I am simultaneously being taught how to be silly and let go. As I get more and more comfortable with playing like a kid (strange to think that has become challenging because I was a kid) the more relaxed and free I feel, and ultimately, I learn how to be a better leader, friend, teacher, and person. The most interesting part is that the more I let go of my ridged agenda, the more organic and fuller the learning environment becomes at a far greater magnitude then what I planned for the lesson that day.

These experiences during class guided me to reflect on the power of play, imagination, and creativity has on developing skills. So why does play and creativity produce a more effective and powerful opportunity for growth/learning? Intuitively the answer is presence. When we are completely present without judgement of ourselves and one with what we are trying to accomplish, miracles happen. The ball goes in the hole, we hit our target, win the match, hit the best shot ever, the list can go on.  

When we are babies our natural instincts and lack of fear enable us to learn to walk, talk, crawl, fall, and eventually get back up. We learned by trial, imagination, and ultimately by doing it in our unique way without the need to be “right” or “wrong”. There is a sense of confidence and self-assurance that is nurtured. But somewhere along the way, that unique way of learning, doing, and playing is dulled. We forget how to let go and play, be creative, and use imagination.

 So as adults, how can we let go of our rigidness, and practice trusting our inner guidance either on the golf course or in other moments of life. Every moment offers an opportunity to something new about our ability, or even yet, remember our ability to let go of the smallness mindset that is blocking greatness. This is the beginning of a new year, not necessarily a new you, that allows you to honor who you are and the amazing capabilities that you are born with. Tap into that an see where that takes you this year.

Cheers to a happy, playful, and joyous 2017!  

Analysis Paralysis

Analysis paralysis is a common phrase we have all heard or maybe experienced. Overthinking, perfectionism, procrastination, self-doubt, and lack of faith in what you believe are all symptoms of the cause. I have always been curious about what creates this feeling and act of overthinking which ultimately slows us from progress. Whether it is a business decision, what to order on a menu, or even making a decision on the golf course...what is the cause?

The only conclusion that I can come up with is fear. Fear of being wrong, not succeeding, judged, not doing what others have told you to do, the list can go on. The constant need to be right and feel accepted by others stops us from reaching our full potential and therefore being at peace within ourselves. Peace comes when the fear of being right or perfect no longer controls us. It does not mean you are not open to learning or other ideas, but it can mean we do not attach ourselves to thoughts and opinions. 

I encourage you to practice your natural abilities and trust in whatever you are pondering. Trusting in our own instincts and not allowing the "what if" thoughts to overwhelm our perceptions will create a sense of doing rather than thinking. If something excites you but feel a little scared that you will not be good enough, know enough, make the "right" choice, or be accepted let that go (easier said than done) and allow. There is no need to worry if people will understand you or accept what you do, that is a false sense of security. The only person who needs to know and accept you is you. 

I challenge you to observe the thoughts that come in when faced with a there fear or excitement? If the fear is there ask yourself why? You might find that you discover the habitual ways of thinking that have stopped you from doing and living the life you want. Move through the fear of being wrong or right...stick to what you believe and trust your instincts. Our thoughts are powerful so do not let fear stop you from doing what you are capable of! Whats the worst that can happen if your plans do not work out? 




The 3 P's

As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love – even the most simple action.
— Eckhart Tolle

Another great year is ahead for us all and I am excited to go FORE it! There are many goals and accomplishments we have written down, stated out loud, and dream of at night. Those dreams, hopes, and goals are what fuels our desires and enhance our life. 

When committing to any new goal or project, whether it be to start a new business, getting fit, or lowering your golf scores...whatever "it" might be there is a process that takes place in order to achieve those goals. Presence, patience, and persistence are the three P's that come to mind when embarking on a new adventure or goal. 

Presence is a hard one to master in our go, go, go society. We are constantly doing, wanting, thinking, and planing, which can cause disruptions to progress. To become more focused and efficient, practicing presence during everyday tasks can create more efficiency and heighten awareness.  We so often want things, people, situations, and circumstances to be different. But when we stop fighting what is and accept every situation, person, and especially ourselves...clarity and focus are sharpened because resistance and judgement are not the main emotions within. 

Patience and trusting the process of developing the skills required to accomplish a goal is a must. Patience, in my opinion, is the hardest to practice. In our minds we expect to have things happen right away, and then frustration is encountered when they don't. But what if there is a reason for the "slow" progress? When the knowledge, timing, and circumstances are right everything will fall into place....just have faith and allow the process to unfold for you. 

Persistence is showing up everyday ready to work, explore, learn, and take on new challenges. Persistence and consistency go hand in hand. Creating change and accomplishing a goal does not happen over night. Developing new and simple habits that can be accomphilshed will lessen the feeling of becoming overwhelmed. Another great way to stay persistent is to practice reflecting upon what you did well at each and everyday. The mindset of focusing on what you did accomplish rather than what went wrong will enhance your overall well-being and keep you moving in the direction of your dreams. Lastly, to stay on the path to success, make sure to surround yourself with a positive support team. Having a support system when embarking upon a new challenge, goal, or adventure is critical. We are human and the support, positive reinforcment, and assistance is reassuring when doubt or fear starts to creep in.

Practice presence when you feel impatience. Pause when you feel a lack a of motivation to persist. And most importantly don't take yourself too is a dance it is meant to be fun, adventurous, and creative. 

Happy Sunday! 




Attitude of Gratitude

Gratitude...what a powerful concept and feeling for many of us. When we completely let go and invite gratitude into our hearts and minds there is a shift. Perceptions of our circumstances change and things seem to flow without effort. 

Today is Christmas and I am feeling gratitude for all that I have in my life. Often times we focus on material possessions and accomplishments...which are all nice to be grateful for. But what if for a few moments today and everyday we are grateful for who we are...the amazing beings that we are and the experiences that have allowed us to be more whole, real, and fulfilled. 

For me 2015 was a big year in being grateful for who I am and loving myself unconditionally. I found myself always comparing myself to who I use to be, other people, being mean to myself for not be that is not very productive. But recently I decided to shift the perception of myself, and instead of being hard on myself, I decided to be grateful for my talents, the love and support of those around me, and guts to go for my dreams no matter how uncomfortable I felt (or feel) at the time.

The more I focused on gratitude of who I am something shifted in me...there was no longer the fear of what others think, the constant need for approval, and life has become fun, exciting, and creative. 

As we move into 2016, I encourage you to take time to be grateful for who you are and all of the love, talent, and gifts you possess. Those are the intangibles that can create change, help others, and allow your greatness to shine. By allowing your greatness and love to shine that energy will allow others to embrace the greatness and love that is in them too!

I sincerely thank all of those who have encouraged, loved, and inspired me to be my best! I am eternally grateful for all you have taught me and will continue to teach me throughout this journey! 

Lets GO FORE IT! in 2016 and create a life full of gratitude, drive, and dream chasing! 

What you believe, conceive, you will achieve 

Just breathe

Breathing in and out everyday is something that comes as natural as blinking. Our natural instinct controls and regulates our natural flow of oxygen without the need to think. Over the course of the day, due to the stresses of everyday life, our breath can become rapid and out of sync with the natural flow. 

I know when my mind begins to race, I feel my chest tighten and my muscles tense up. Usually, the stinking thinking thoughts are not productive and cause a disruption in the natural flow of energy. Our brains and senses are naturally wired to protect our being when we sense danger. Often our minds are creating a fearful thought and the body reacts because the mind cannot decipher what is real and what is not. 

Fear is a powerful emotion of the ego. If you turn on the news you will be inundated with fear about the economy, world crisis, crime in our neighborhoods. The mind is being conditioned to perceive the world through the lens of fear. The fear of not being good enough, pretty enough, being special enough, and on and on. The ego (which is a false sense of who you truly are) will trick you into believing and reacting to the fear. Letting go and breathing when fear arises is essential to maintaining a sense of balance and peace within. You will find that beneath the fear, is the calm and loving being that you truly are.  

The challenge this week is to invite the fear, breathe through it, and know deep within that you are much more magnificent and powerful beyond any doubt that fear imposes. Today, identify one area in your life that makes you feel tense or creates a tightening in your heart, close your eyes, feel it, breathe into it, and let it go. It might come back, but the powerful energy will start to dissipate when you bring more stillness through non reaction. 

The practice of conscience breath and awareness can apply to all aspects of life, especially on the golf course. The next time you feel tension or self-doubt over a shot, take a step back, breathe, and observe the fear that the mind is creating. Watch it, witness it, let it go, and swing with freedom. Freedom means not allowing the outcome of the shot to override the process of the moment and possibilities of greatness to come forth. 

Remember to just breathe, let go, and trust in your instincts. 

Peace and birdies